As we close out a year many thought was going to be better than the one before, I think there is more of a cautious tone heading into this next chapter.
I am feeling somewhat cautiously optimistic. With so many uncertainties, there is something I have witnessed that COVID-19 cannot conquer. That is love and love will win every time.
I have seen heartwarming stories this year of people who have shown love to the less fortunate. The KTW Christmas Cheer Fund stories in this newspaper are a testament to that.
Love can move mountains (so can floods, for that matter).
As I look back at many of my happy couples, it gives me the warm and fuzzies knowing each one of them had an open heart and mind to meet the person they would connect with and the ones before them with whom a connection was not made.
Currently, I have 53 couples in Kamloops still going strong.
With New Year’s resolutions around the corner, there are many gyms that will see more people who plan to make fitness a priority (once gyms reopen, which should be on Jan. 18 under the current public health order).
After a few visits, if you start skipping gym days, missing workouts and making excuses, I don’t think the gym will chase you down to find out where you are. The facility has done its part. Staff completed the paperwork. They showed you the equipment, toured you around, answered any questions you had and offered you classes and training instruction.
Ultimately, though, you are the one responsible for getting there and making the most of your membership.
It’s the same with my memberships. If you hope to find love or a special connection with someone, then when I present you with that opportunity to meet someone, the only way to know if it could work is to meet them.
I have had several couples who claim there was no attraction at all after the first date, yet they are part of those 53 success stories because they decided to have another date or two.
Let’s say you make a plan to focus on your biceps at the gym and your trainer puts together your session to do hammer curls, barbell curls and reverse curl. Then, after doing them for three days, you look in the mirror and decide it is not working. That’s because you haven’t put in the effort.
Relationships, like weight training at the gym, are hard work. But when you do put in the effort, the rewards are worth it.
So if you do plan to come to me for a matchmaking membership, try to have an open heart and mind to actually meet someone and not just swipe away their photo.
There are still some people who think there will be sparks and intense fireworks on the first date. I can honestly tell you that the few times that actually happens, the fireworks last 20 minutes, blow up, then disappear.
But building a fire with someone could be different. It takes some kindling, some patience and working as teammates to create an exciting, crackling fire that will stay alive when you keep it burning.
If you are happy, single and looking for a special connection in 2022, then open your mind and heart and get your kindling ready. Contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca.
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