Now that it’s December, many people are in the thick of cookie dough, tree decorating and planning their festive feasts.
This is also a fun time to watch some movies to put you in the Christmas spirit.
There is one on Netflix I recently watched and I am encouraging you to also give it a go. It’s called Love Hard and, after you watch it, I am curious if you can figure out why that is the title of the flick.
The movie is about a young, beautiful woman who blogs about her disastrous dating life and ends up getting catfished on a dating app. (If you need a reminder about Catfishing, Google is your friend.) After speaking to a man for a few weeks, she decides to hop on a plane and travel 3,000 miles to surprise him for Christmas.
Well, the surprise ends up being on her. The movie, which was filmed in and around Vancouver, is predictable and a bit cheesy, but it will stir up some great conversations.
While the woman was the victim of catfishing, it was evident she could dish a bit of that out herself.
No matter how many women I meet and who agree there is more to a man than his picture, when push comes to shove, we all want to see the photo — and most women would not travel 3,000 miles if the catfisher had posted his real picture.
Spolier alert: And it’s obvious in the movie, as well, but she does end up falling in love with the man who catfished her because, well, she actually got to know him. She also got to know the handsome, hunky fellow whose photo she was smitten with at the beginning.
Yes, this is just a movie and it doesn’t usually happen in real life. That is because most of us are shallow and feel there has to be some attraction to the picture. I have had six clients who emailed me after their face-to-face dates, telling me there was no attraction at all when they met. I love sending those feedback emails back to my clients after they move in together or get married. Yes, it can happen in real life if people would just open up their hearts and minds a wee bit.
Catfishing won’t work. Lying about what you look like or pretending to like things the other person does or not being your authentic self will come back to bite you in the you know what.
(If you use any filters for dating profile pics, that’s catfishing, in my opinion.)
Just keep being yourself. There will be someone out there who realizes you are a catch and would make a great partner. If they pass you over based on your photo, that’s their loss.
This reminds me of an actual event that happened three years ago. I was at a fundraiser dinner dance with a group and an acquaintance of mine, who had also been on my membership, was admiring a couple I set up. She agreed they made a great match, but she seemed a little disappointed that I had never sent his profile to her for consideration.
I looked straight at her and, to her shock, I said I did indeed send his profile to her. In fact, she was the first woman I sent his profile to, but she had turned down the opportunity to meet him as she wasn’t attracted to his photo.
Yet there we were, in a social situation, and she really liked what she saw. (Insert evil laugh here.)
If you contact me by the end of the December, I am offering a four-month membership for the price of three months. If you like ice fishing, I have a few men who do that. I don’t have any men who catfish, though, so you will have to go to a dating app for that.
If you are happy, single and looking for someone to watch Love Hard with, contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca and you won’t have to travel 3,000 miles to meet them.
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