Every September, I look forward to taking part in Kamloops This Week’s Raise a Reader Day.

It is a fabulous fundraiser and it is so important to promote early literacy initiatives. When I was in school, I remember some of the books we read: To Kill a Mockingbird, Of Mice and Men, The Outsiders, Catcher in the Rye and many more. However, I must confess I have taken reading for granted over the last 30 years and only read a book on my annual vacation.

I always seemed to have an excuse that I was too busy and preferred reading newspapers, recipes and, more recently, dating profiles.  

When the pandemic hit, I was one of those people who started baking bread, planting a garden and, lo and behold, reading books. Many people in my family are voracious readers. I have friends in book clubs and my daughter always has a book on the go.

Recently, I found myself invited as a guest  to a friend’s house for a book club discussion as I had read the same book they had. When I was there, I saw Deb, a woman I know. I won’t reveal her last name as she is also a member of a different book club. Can you imagine?

I asked her if the members of these two respective clubs knew she was sneaking around, reading another book. She proceeded to tell me that, sometimes, she has three books going at once. This boggled my mind and I started asking around. It turns out there are many bookaholics in Kamloops.  Two women I know told me they have an audio, fiction and non-fiction books going at the same time.  I had to hold my jaw in place.

This scenario reminded me of people I talk to, who date three or four others at once. It must get overwhelming, and sometimes confusing, trying to keep all the dates and books sorted properly.  Hear me out. Imagine you are on your fourth date with a woman named Brenda. Maybe she is a nurse who has three kids, likes mountain biking and does not like coffee. Then you are on your second date with a woman named Beth, who likes skiing and loves coffee and has one child.

Imagine you showed up to your date with Brenda with a coffee in hand for her, then realized it is Beth who likes coffee. I am guessing people who date several others at once must have to put sticky notes in their car on the way to remind them of everything.  

When you date one person at a time, you can give your full attention and focus on them because those first few dates are important. There’s a lot of information to digest and, by the time you have your second or third date, you probably know for sure if this is a person you are really hitting it off with and want to see exclusively. This is also the time most people decide to dissolve and move on to meeting someone new.

I am not saying it’s completely wrong to date a few people at the same time while you are figuring things out, but more often than not, that seems to be what causes all the problems when you think you have decided on one person and a part of you keeps wondering who you are missing out on. It is much like the Bachelor franchise of dating many men and women at the same time.  

If you are reading a book that is a mystery, with lots of twists and turns, and you finally finish it, maybe your next book will be a science-fiction tome or a biography. Please note, I am not saying it’s wrong to read several books at once. Truth be told, I am envious of this multitasking ability.

My mom, sister, and daughter are avid readers of many many years, yet both of them tell me they are one-book-at-a-time page turners.  

If you are single, happy and want to meet women and men who may very well read more than one book at a time, contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca. Maybe your first date can be at a bookstore and you can create your last chapter together.