I remember distinctly the first time I went heli-skiing.
Having skied all my life, I certainly didn’t think it would be something I couldn’t handle. So many people told me how amazing it was and that it was a definite bucket-list activity.
The skiing was the fun, easy part. Surprisingly, the portion of the day that caused the most concern was the information-safety session before heading out. We all gathered in a room to listen to a a guide. As far as I am concerned, he was probably trying to win a bet as to how many people he could get to back out.
We watched a safety video on how to not get separated from your group. We learned what to do in the event of an avalanche, The real eye-opener came when we went outside with the beacons and they tested us to determine if we knew how to find someone buried in the snow.
Mission accomplished as two people backed out.
The experience reminded me of my childhood, when I was in Disneyland, standing with my dad in line as we waited to board a rollercoaster. The long, swerving line moved slowly and on every corner was a sign: “If you have suffered back issues, are pregnant, have claustrophobia or high blood pressure, you may want to reconsider.”
Those signs caused my dad to have high blood pressure and claustrophobia. When we approached to last-chance sign, my dad had second thoughts and ducked out of the line, leaving me alone to ride Space Mountain.
Mission Accomplished.
About three years ago, I was out of town, competing in trail run in some rugged territory, Organizers brought in a Wildsafe BC representative to discuss what to do in the event of bear, wolf or cougar sightings.
Mission accomplished. Full-on panic attack in public.
I didn’t back out, though.
I didn’t realize my matchmaking business was a little like heli-skiing, riding a roller coaster and  encountering wildlife (although I do have some men with big, burly beards).
I understand that stepping into something new can be daunting and scary, but it can also be fun. It’s important to challenge yourself and take a risk. I would find it much riskier to try an online hook-up site and not even know with whom I am riding a rollercoaster.
I have had a few people come to me with every intention of getting out there to date. Then reality hits, fear and anxiety settle in and they have second thoughts. For those who decide to wait, I assure you, just as I discovered, the deep white powder, the exhilarating, breathtaking rollercoaster and the majestic landscape of the summit on the mountains were all worth it.
If you are having second thoughts, contact me and we can chat about it. I don’t cause claustrophobia or high blood pressure (well, only to my kids).
Contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca.