In 1985 I remember being in awe of Ron Howard’s movie “Cocoon.” In this film, a group of elderly people were rejuvenated to youthful exuberance after they stumbled across a fountain of youth and had a close encounter with alien visitors. I can’t help but wonder if that fictional fountain is in fact real and hidden in a secret place right here in Kamloops.
I have been writing a dating column in Kamloops This Week for almost a year now. The response has been amazing to say the least—so much so that I have since set up a matchmaking company called Holmes is Where the Heart Is. Through this endeavor I have been pleasantly surprised at a very much unexpected demographic of potential clients.
I have to confess, when I first started my matchmaking business, I assumed that the primary age group of potential clients would be in the 40-60 category. They were the most likely demographic to have been married, divorced, technologically challenged to the ways of today, and now looking for a second opportunity at love. This wasn’t the case at all. Once my website launched, I initially started hearing from 25-35 year olds and was curious as to why they would be reaching out to me when they had other tech-savvy options available to them like Tinder, Bumble and OKCupid, not to mention an ever-changing but seemingly unlimited supply of online dating options.
Once this short influx died down, my inbox started piling up with messages from another demographic. This group happened to be those aged 65 and over. It had become apparent to me that regardless of whether you are single, divorced, or widowed, you are never too old to find love. If you have ever read my columns you will know that one of the only criteria I ask of people I match, is that that they have one simple but very important quality—happiness. At the same time, I also want people to know there is nothing wrong with being single. If you can’t be happy and single, your chances of being coupled and happy are not going to greatly improve. For one reason or another, many people find themselves on their own in their 50s and 60s. Some decide to stay that way through the remainder of their lives, yet others, will reach out to meet that special someone to spend time with again. Both are perfectly acceptable.
Now back to my opening paragraph. I met up with a 79-year-old that exercises regularly, travels, enjoys live music, and plays golf.
I recently tried to set up an appointment with a 72-year-old one day but they had a hard time fitting me in between their full time job they hold by choice, their volunteer shifts, and their grandchildren. I couldn’t help but wonder how these people were going to fit in the time for a date!
I have to admit that I have been inspired by many of the older men and women who have contacted me. I realize they don’t need to be taking a dip in a fountain of youth, because the reason they are so young and energetic is because they are living a happy full life and wanting to do new things. That’s what staying young is all about.
If you are a happy single senior, have hobbies, like the arts, attend sporting events, or keep yourself busy with other activities, and once again want to meet a special partner to do these things with, I would love the opportunity to introduce you to your perfect match.
You may remember a documentary that was screened in Kamloops a couple of years ago called “The Age of Love” about seniors speed dating. It conveyed the message that there is never an age limit on friendship, romance or even affection and passion. Desire does not stop and the switch does not suddenly turn off when you turn 75. Intimacy can occur on many levels and seeing how open the Baby Boomers and Silent Generation are to starting new relationships is so wonderful.
If you have a good attitude and want to start dating, Go For It! Would you believe Wilford Brimley was only 49-years-old when he starred as the elderly man in “Cocoon?!”
With Valentine’s Day upon us, many single people may find themselves swiping right on their phone looking for a quick date. If you find you are ready for a real relationship, email me and maybe you can fit me into your busy schedule.
(Tara Holmes can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and her website is holmesis wheretheheartis.ca)