One thing we all have in common is that we arrived on this Earth with parents.Perhaps you were raised by the parents from whom you were conceived. Maybe you were adopted and raised by loving parents who became your mom and dad. You may have been raised by a single parent who later married someone who became your stepparent and brought you half-siblings.All families have unique circumstances. Some of these situations are more challenging than others.  Bringing a new partner into the mix can add stress on everyone. 

 I have some clients who know they do not want to meet someone who has young children as they feel they have been there and done that. Others are accepting of kids who are older and a bit more independent. I think a lot depends on how amicable the situation is between the two people. One issue many people haven’t considered is getting involved with someone who has parents. That may sound odd, but so many people focus on children and not many folks consider the status of potential mates with moms and dads.I have met with many people who have aging parents and not all of them age the same. My mom is 81 and strong, healthy, vibrant and completely independent. That could change one day. Without meaning to sound morbid, that will change some day.  My husband and I have been together for 10 years and we are both in our second relationships.  When we first got together, I was more concerned with combining our 11- and 12-year-old sons and  wasn’t even thinking about dealing with aging parents.I have met with clients in their 70s who have parents in their 90s. Of course they are involved in their lives, some of them regularly. If they live on their own, they will need that much more attention and this is something that comes with having a family. It would be my hope that a partner would not only be understanding of this, but also involved and supportive along the way.

The window of time in one’s life when there is minimal responsibility is limited. Chances are slim of getting into a new relationship that has no issues at all with children, teenagers or parents. If you meet that person you don’t want to live without, that could mean combining, dogs and kids and facing crises together.You may have to support each other through the loss of a pet, through dealing with a troubled teen or while putting an aging parent into an assisted-living home.But guess what? That’s life. If you want to meet a life partner, you need to face life’s challenges together. It can be a scary concept to be vulnerable and open your heart up to new love. You can certainly be facing some hard times together and that’s the risk.Is it worth it? Yes. My husband and I combined a dachshund and a border collie and my two kids with his one child. Our families are along for the ride. We just have to put our seatbelts on and prepare for the bumps in the road.If you are single and happy and want to meet someone who most likely has parents, contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca and get ready to embrace all the ups and downs life has to offer —  together.