It’s only natural, as Christmas and New year’s Eve approach, to reminisce about previous Yuletide traditions.
It’s not uncommon for old relationships to also come to mind. One of our family traditions is to read Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. I realized that, much like Scrooge, there are men and women who, for whatever reason, hold on to old resentments and grudges. This prevents their hearts and minds from being open to the beauty of possibility and new beginnings.
If you are visited in your sleep by the Ghost of Christmas Past, acknowledge and respect it, but don’t hold on to it. Let it go. Whatever your current Christmas looks like, make the most of it. Regardless of your relationship status, take a moment to really soak in the joy and warmth of the holiday season.
If you want to feel love this Christmas, perhaps you should volunteer. It sounds like a cliché to say it feels better to give than receive, but it really does. I guarantee it. When you volunteer, you not only help others, but you also meet new, amazing people.
If you have a visit from the Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come, you are the only person who has the ability to make it come true. Scrooge had to revisit what was holding him back until his eyes were opened to how simple it was to change his attitude. Otherwise, he would have been stuck in his gloomy outlook year after year.
So, open up your heart.  Let go of some of the things that are holding you back. You will see people in a different way. You will suddenly focus on the beauty of someone’s eyes, rather than their height. You will see the joy in someone’s laughter, rather than the extra 10 pounds you thought was so important. You will see the deep meaningful beauty that lies in each and every one of us. When that actually happens, attraction and chemistry will follow.
Finding a partner to love for Christmas would be a great gift. But more important is to find love within your heart. That’s why I always say my deal breakers are single, happy people. When you are happy, you have so much more to offer someone, just as Scrooge did for Bob Cratchet.
So, in the words of Tiny Tim, “God bless us, every one.”
If you would like to start working on Christmas yet to come,  contact me via email  and we will start your new year off with a draw for a $50 gift certificate to Nandi’s Flavours of India.