As I am sitting down to pen my Matchmaking column for Christmas, I have to confess that this whole month has been tough for me to get in the Christmas spirit.  The first to get the blame was Mother Nature, because having a nice big dump of snow leading up to the holidays sure helps build the anticipation.  I was giving this more thought and realized it is hypocritical of me to blame the lack of snow for how I was feeling.  I’ts kind of like a single person saying they can’t be happy without a partner.  Christmas Spirit, Happiness, Peace, and Joy, all come from within.  The best way to feel these gifts is to give them away.  In giving them you will automatically feel them in return.  
December can also be a very difficult month for those who have mental health challenges.  There is so much pressure to feel happy and if you are struggling then this is tough.  Also as I write this I know people are grieving the loss of a loved one this month, and even remembering loved ones they lost in this month over the years.  My heart goes out to all of you.  
For those of us who celebrate Christmas, it is important to remember that the wrapped parcels and packages under the tree are really not what it is about.  The true gifts are who are with us , be it family, friends, relatives, colleagues, siblings, and even brand new acquaintances.  
I met a new friend this year.  His story had a huge impact on me.  He has faced obstacles most of us could not imagine.  He also happens to be the most positive, inspiring, joyful, funny person you can be lucky enough to meet.  He is now sharing his happiness with a new friend I connected him with.  She is a sweet, fun, girl with a sparkle in her eyes and keeps him on his toes.  In spending time with these two, I came to realize I didn’t help them find love, but they helped show me what love really is.  It needs to start from within
This has been a busy year for Matchmaking.  It makes me smile to know on Christmas morning there are many many new couples sharing it together this year.  If you aren’t one of them, have faith that your time will come.  If you are one of the people that have wasted valuable time and energy on line dating, please consider contacting me to find out how my unique process works.  I have met amazing men and women of all ages, and who knows one of them may be your perfect match. Contact me holmes@wheretheheartis.ca
In wrapping up, let’s remember the words of the editor of the New York Sun in 1897 to the 8 year old Virginia O’hanlon.  ” Only Faith, Fancy, Poetry, Love, Romance can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond.  Is it all real?  Ah Virginia, in all the world there is nothing else real and abiding.  
Merry Christmas everyone from myself Tara Holmes and these two amazing people who really do shine with Christmas Spirit.  Sam and Jordyn.