Welcome to my first dating column of 2020. Many people at this time of the year have the best intentions of keeping our resolutions and striving for making ourselves better. Unfortunately for many, after the first month, we fall back into our old habits and routines. I thought I would provide you with some resolutions that could make a huge difference in your life and put you in a perfect head space to be ready for love in 2020:

1. Many people think losing 10 pounds will make them happy. Not true. But getting healthier is vital and, without health, you can’t have love. So, yes, if you are sedentary or have gained weight this past year, book a session with a personal trainer or join RunClub, which has a pace for everyone, including beginners. It will hold you accountable and you may even start to like it. Go online to  runclub.ca for more information. If money is tight, get a group of friends together and vow to keep each other motivated. It’s good to be held accountable. 2. Perhaps you have made some bad financial decisions recently and you need to get back on track.  Talk to a financial adviser. Work on spending less and saving or investing. Look to having experiences with people, rather than feeling the need to buy things. 3- If you have been complaining about your job all year, it’s time to change it. Life is too short to be in a job you don’t like. If you aren’t feeling fulfilled or nourished by what you are doing, perhaps a change in career is in order. Talk to a business/life coach to come up with a plan. 4- R&R. No, not rest and relaxation, but reduce and reuse. Of course we know recycling is vital, but learning to reduce and reuse is so empowering. Yes, you can make a difference. Starting to make these small changes will make you feel like a new person. For helpful hints, check out the City of Kamloops website at kamloops.ca for waste-reduction information.

5. Volunteer. Giving back is a great way to feel rewarded. If this is new or a bit scary for you, contact Volunteer Kamloops and that organization can put you in touch with a worthy group that needs help and may be a fit for you. Volunteer Kamloops is like a matchmaker. 6- Practise smiling. It’s a little like yawning as it really is contagious. Step out of your comfort zone and even say hello. 7-Clean your house, de-clutter and donate. If you go through your house, you will find many items you don’t use or wear any more, so give them to someone who will put them to good use. A clean space will give you renewed energy and you will have less stress. 8- Go outside every day. No, not to your car to go to work and not to go shopping. Make time to go outside to walk, hike, play or exercise. Scientific evidence shows that spending time outside contributes to increased energy and wards off exhaustion. -. Sign up for something you have never done before. How about a cooking class? Or dancing? Maybe sewing? Or pickleball? Check out the current issue of the City of Kamloops Parks and Recreation Guide where you will find many options of new and exciting things to try. 10- This last piece of advice may sound a bit dark, but it’s important. We are all going to die one day, so don’t leave all the planning to your grieving family. Sort out that stuff now — wills, beneficiaries and even the type of memorial service you prefer. Seriously, why leave that up to your family to deal with at such a tough time? You will feel relieved knowing your loved ones won’t have to go through that process.

Let’s finish off with a positive change you can add — gratitude. Be thankful for everything and know that no matter how bad some things get, it could always be worse. Meditate, pray or, each day, write down three things — even little things — for which you are thankful. These ideas have absolutely nothing to do with matchmaking, but it’s important to try to be your best self before you bring someone into your life. You will be happier, healthier and more at peace — and that will draw people to you. If you would like me to help you meet those people, email me at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca.  Wishing every one of you a healthy, happy, prosperous 2020 — and maybe even a perfect match.