I am sure you’ve done it. I’ve done it, too.
We have all come across a couple we know, or have observed, staring lovingly at each other and our inside voice (which I should use more often) says, “What does she see in him?” or “That’s the strangest match I’ve ever seen.” The answer is simple — it’s chemistry. Chemistry is exciting. Just ask Gordon Gore at the BIG Little Science Centre. The great thing is, unlike Gordon, you don’t require Borax, food colouring or vinegar for this experiment.
There is only one thing you need: to meet face to face. I am excited to report I have set up seven dates since I started this column a few weeks ago. (Yes, two of the couples were exes, but give me a break. This is Kamloops.) I am impressed with how open and willing many men and women are to at least meet up with someone for a coffee, a hike or a dog walk. Even if there’s no chemistry, what have you got to lose? Maybe you will find a new friend, a client or a fitness partner. I have also come across a few people who were only willing to base their decision on a photo. I understand attraction is a big part of chemistry. However, finding that innate connection with someone cannot be completely reliant on looks. Just because someone is drop-dead gorgeous does not automatically make them kind, funny or confident.
For some people, it’s intellect they dig; for others, it’s humour. The beautiful thing is nobody can explain another couple’s chemistry. That face-to-face meeting does not have to be immediate. It can take place after some emails and phone conversations, once the two have gotten to know a little more about each other. I am keeping an eye out for many who have contacted me. I will be contacting one of you and handing over a $50 gift certificate to Nandi’s Flavours of India. Nandi’s makes for a great date night with a romantic view and is a great place to start your chemistry experiment. If you or anyone you know is single and 25-plus, contact me firstname.lastname@example.org. I know there are plenty of shy people who may be apprehensive. I get it. But if you truly want to meet someone one day, let me know.
I also want to clarify that I don’t feel you have to have a partner in life to be happy. Happiness comes from within and, once you are truly happy with yourself, you have achieved what many struggle to find.
Some people want to share their happiness with a partner and I would love to help connect you to that person. Then you can be the couple about whom people are confused!