Even if you don’t figure skate, or watch it on TV, you likely have seen at least some of a Tessa Virtue and Scott Moir gold-medal routine at the Olympic Winter Games.  


Another routine that went viral online was American gymnast Katelyn Ohashi, who delivered a jaw-dropping floor routine that has millions of views on YouTube. 


Kamloops recently hosted the 2019 Canadian Artistic swimming Championships — formerly known as synchronized swimming — and, regardless if they performed solo, as a duet or as a team, they practice those routines for hours and hours perfecting them for the judges.
While the routines we do in our every day aren’t likely to win medals, go viral or be judged — hopefully — we seem to practice them so much that, before we know it, they become so ingrained in our structured habits that we rarely miss a day of performing them.  


Some routines are the very basic way we start our day. Maybe some people get up, go for a run, shower, listen to the news, get ready for work, grab a double-double at the drive through on our way — and, for many, these become exactly the way we execute our start to the day for many many years. These routines are not necessarily a bad thing.
Some routines, though, end up becoming a habit and may not be benefiting your single life — that is, if you are not wanting to be single forever. I recently met with a client who said he goes to the gym the same three mornings each week at 7 a.m.  
He also goes to the same grocery story on the same day of the week. He walks his dog on the same path and he frequents the same coffee shop. He has also volunteered for the same organization for the last three years.  
There is nothing wrong with this routine and it actually sounds like a healthy nourishing lifestyle, but when we chatted we discussed what it could look like by changing it up a bit.


I know most people are not comfortable with change, but this man is hoping to meet a significant other and so far it hasn’t been happening. 
So say, for instance, he starts going to the gym at 7 p.m. instead of the morning. Perhaps he may even consider going to a different part of town to do grocery shopping.  Perhaps his pooch may enjoy a change of scenery and even a dog park once in a while. 
I like that he volunteers, but maybe trying another worthy non-profit organization to mix it up might be helpful. As for coffee shops, I am sure everyone can see Kamloops is full of them and many are nearby no matter where you are.  


By making small changes in your daily routines, you are opening yourself up to new opportunities and also a chance at meeting different people.  
Of course, the strategy and goal is to ultimately meet someone single and a potential new partner, but even meeting different couples and other volunteers could be a stepping stone to have them introduce you to someone — you just never know.
The definition of insanity, as they say, is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. So why not try to mix things up a bit and stepping out of your comfort zone? 
If you are performing a solo routine these days and would like to make it  a duet, contact me at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca and we will get you out practicing.