Today is Wednesday, Nov. 4, 2020 — the day after the U.S. election.

I wrote and submitted this column several days before, to have it done in time for deadline as this edition of KTW went to press yesterday afternoon, before any results from the election would have been known.

Considering the chaotic, volatile atmosphere down south, it could be some time before the dust has settled.

While writing this, I am trying to imagine what either outcome would look like. If the Orange Menace (as KTW editor Christopher Foulds has aptly named Donald Trump) gets in, there will be many shocked people around the world wondering how on earth it happened, considering Joe Biden was so far ahead in the polls. Alternatively, if Biden gets in, I worry what kind of reaction Trump’s loyal supporters will display. We will also no doubt have to listen to Trump claim it was all due to voter fraud. It is astonishing to me that Trump announced that if he loses, the election was rigged, but if he wins, it was fair. That is so ridiculous and immature.  

I realize that no matter what the outcome is, we will all need to take a step back and breathe. I am guilty of having become obsessed with the campaign and I even enjoyed posting the funny Trump memes. I have been glued to the tube for his rallies and all the debates. It’s almost like I have a love/ hate relationship with Trump.

I could say it’s harmless fun, but it’s not. I get anxious and lose sleep. That is pretty pathetic given I have no control over it and I don’t even live in the United States.

I think about the advice I give people who always go back to unhealthy relationships, where there is drama and chaos. I tell those people they are obviously addicted to the mind games. I recently wrote a column about people who go back to their previous partner, thinking it will be different this time when we both know it won’t.

(That column is titled Shoe Shopping on my blog section of my website).

Yet, while I tell others they are making a mistake doing that, I am most likely right this moment watching American news and shaking my head that Trump managed to cruise through the pandemic, get everyone in the White House infected, suggested bleach as a treatment and claimed that after today no one will hear about COVID-19 anymore — and I will most likely be all rattled again.  

What does any of this have to do with matchmaking? A lot.

Meeting someone special and having a meaningful, lasting relationship is more important now than ever. Even having solid friendships is vital. There is so much uncertainty right now. COVID-19 numbers are climbing, we are headed into what is supposed to be a very cold and snowy winter and our bubbles will decrease.

Now is the time to look at priorities. We are living in a completely different world — now and for the foreseeable future — so it’s important to have patience and to be kind to our families, friends, co-workers and partners.  

Just because we are headed into winter doesn’t mean we can’t make the most of it. I am offering a five-month membership for the price of three months. This will give you plenty of time to meet potential matches and get out and enjoy the season. There is skiing, snowshoeing, hiking, skating,  hot chocolate by a bonfire and, once you become part of each others’ bubble, some cozy cuddle time under a blanket while you watch CNN — oops, I mean Netflix!  

If you are single (like Melania Trump wishes she was), contact me by email at holmes@wheretheheartis.ca  and I can tell you more about how my memberships work.