I recently heard the classic Police song, Don’t Stand so Close to Me.
In all the years of hearing that song, I would gleefully sing and bop along to it without paying much attention. In this new era of physical distancing, that tune could be the theme song of 2020.
There are others, too, like George Thorogood’s I Drink Alone, Billy Idol’s Dancing With Myself, Georgia Satellites’ Keep Your Hands To Yourself — and so many more.
There’s no doubt we are all so much more aware of hygiene and cleanliness and keeping our distance. While we are a long way from mass gatherings, concerts, festivals and conferences, I know some couples who are just waiting and wondering when they will be able to touch each other again — or even for the first time.
One couple I set up two years ago are in a unique situation. They are happy, in love and, until this pandemic, they were thrilled with their relationship. Here’s the situation — they don’t live together.
Of course, over the last two years, they have stayed over and happily display affection, but one of them happens to work in health care, so they are following the guidelines diligently and haven’t even held hands since the pandemic was declared.
Another couple I set up a month ago are enjoying phone conversations, FaceTime sessions, physical-distance hikes and games of golf, but by the sounds of things, what they are ready for is some physical touching.
These are tough times for couples in such situations and I hope they remain patient and creative as they await their first kiss, regardless if it is their first kiss since the pandemic started, or their first kiss ever.
The physical distancing certainly doesn’t have to interfere with romance, flirting or even sexting between couples. Regardless, this is going to be a test of willpower and perseverance for a while longer.
For those couples who are chomping at the bit and going stir crazy without the physical touch, think of how amazing it will be when it happens. Think of others in these kinds of scenarios, like new grandparents who cannot yet cuddle the new baby, or those married couples in their 90s who are separated by a window after so many years together, or the doctor sleeping in his garage to keep his family safe. There are so many stories of strength and resilience, so it’s really true that we are all in this together.
I was talking to my cousin’s 13-year-old daughter and she told me she and her best friend take a blanket and a picnic basket and hike up a trail. There, they each sit on their blankets six feet apart, eat cupcakes and watch the sunset. That sounds delightful and is a fantastic date idea.
In the words of Dr. Bonnie Henry, this is for now, not forever. And, to borrow a cliché: Good things come to those who wait.,
I really admire couples who have stayed the course and are doing their part. It shows great empathy and selflessness. Once physical distancing is over, we can have a new playlist of songs to look forward to, such as Journey’s Lovin’, Touchin’, Squeezin’, Dan HIll’s Sometimes When We Touch and Hootie and the Blowfish’s Hold my Hand.
If you are happy, single and ready to meet a partner in life, contact me by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Then everyone can put Foreigner’s Feels Like the First Time on their playlist.